I am confused about Valentine’s Day.

I am the first to put up my hand and admit I can see what Valentine’s Day is supposed to be – but my confusion comes about because it doesn’t live up to it’s promise.

It is supposed to celebrate love but for many teenagers it isn’t a celebration at all. Of course if you are in a relationship then it is a great opportunity to spend money (don’t start me on the commercialisation and rip-offs that abound) to show your girlfriend/boyfriend how much you care. You could go out for a meal, or a walk, or buy flowers, or a Tiffany gift.

But what about those that aren’t in a relationship – for them the day is more about self-worth and self-esteem than it is about love. Of course it is a fun time to drop an anonymous card in the post, or in the letter box or in the locker at school – giving cards is part of the fun. But what if you don’t get any? That’s when our minds start to talk to ourselves and remind us of all Read More

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Back to School – 2

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Well, how is it going? Have they begun to settle in? Of course if they come home and say everything is great then they are either young (don’t you just love the child’s acceptance and ability to look on the bright side) or they could not be telling you everything.

I suggest that this weekend you spring a surprise on them – give them a treat they weren’t expecting to celebrate the end of the first week (or part week) on the new school year. Get a Friday Night pizza delivered or go out for a weekend breakfast. Splurge.

Use the time to have a D+M (deep and meaningful chat) about school, the year ahead and how it’s all going to work out. Come at it from the frame of mind that you want to know how you can serve them to have the best year they could ever wish for. Talk through extra-curricular Read More

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Back to School – part 1

Well it’s that time of year again – end of the summer holidays and the start of a new school year – for some of you the start of a new school! This can be quite a stressful time for both the student and the parent (and give a thought too for the teachers!) This is quite normal and could include some social stress – meeting up with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend for the first time in a while, or worrying about whether the friendship circles may have changed – maybe even concerned to see if the bully is back and continuing their ways. Maybe they are hoping for a change of teacher in a certain subject – or exactly the opposite.

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Older students may have been given some homework to do during the holidays and the stress compounds as they suddenly realise they have only hours left to complete days of work. Read More

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5 benefits to your child when they engage in competitive sport

There is some discussion that children are joining competitive sports teams too early and that there can be too much pressure to win. However, most agree that children generally would benefit from increased exercise. Far too many children come home after sitting in school all day and either get on the computer or sit in front of the television. By contrast, children on sports teams come home from school and go to practice. The practice sessions provide excellent exercise and could build good health habits that your child will use for the rest of their life.

In addition to the health benefits, participating in a team sport helps your child to learn to be part of a team. Good coaches will emphasize the importance of teamwork and good sportsmanship over winning and losing. 96924666When this is the case your child will be Read More

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Tennis – a sport or much, much more?

Right now we are in the middle of the Australian Open Grand Slam Tennis tournament – and what fun it is. I spent 3 days on Rod Laver Arena last week and enjoyed myself immensely. It brought back two interesting questions that I was asked – one of them I still get asked from time to time.

As many of you will know, I am an Englishman who moved to Australia 12 years ago and one of the regular (still occasional) questions I was asked is :”What is the difference between youth work in England and in Australia?” My response was that the issues young people face seem very similar – what to do in their future, relationships, self esteem, parents 200458390-001etc. Although Australian youth face an additional issue – sport!

I will explain by recounting a conversation I had with a 15 year old guy in Victoria (I will Read More

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Success is Hard Work, But So Is Failure

Some people dream of success . . . while others wake up and work hard at it. – Author Unknown

Just like every action has a consequence, inaction also brings about its own consequences. It may seem easier not to work on your goals and dreams and instead spend most of your time whinging about your hard luck and envying those who seem to have it so easy. You may think you’re taking the path of least resistance as you seek shortcuts and avoid taking big risks, but everything you fail to do now comes back to bite you later. What you fail to realise is that you are working equally hard at failure as you would at success!

Think about that: with everything you do (or don’t do) you are contributing your energy to it. Either you give it your effort, or you give it your resistance. A little piece of you goes into everything you do. Think of it as an energy investment. If you consistently try to avoid the things that seem too difficult or scary – that’s the type of Read More

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A to Z of Achieving Your Dream

This is the time of year when some have left their New Year’s Resolutions behind already but they still want to move forward this year. For others they are still working out what 2012 may hold for them. Today I would like to offer 26 thought starters to help you define and achieve your dreams for your life – in 2012 and way beyond. Feel free to comment below if any of them stand out to you or if you would like some further exploration.

You can follow the dreams theme throughout this week through Facebook and Twitter too – just click on the buttons in the right hand column.

Achieving Your Dream
Age is not an issue
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Challenges create growth
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Give it your best shot
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5 Things to Say to your Daughter the Night before her Wedding

For a father, watching his daughter get married is a bittersweet moment. While you are so proud she has grown up into a beautiful woman and found a man who truly loves her, it is hard to let go of your little girl. She is a woman now and maybe someday soon be raising children of her own. Even though your baby girl is uniting with another man, your role in her life is not forgotten. She will always come to you in times of trouble and share with you her happiest moments. On the day before her wedding, share with her just how very special she is.

Tell your daughter how happy you were the day she was born, how her entering the world changed your life forever. Express your love for her mother and how you hope her marriage brings her as much joy. Explain what it felt like the first time you held her in your arms, the first time you helped her patch up a scraped knee, or the first time you watched her heart get broken. Tell her what a beautiful woman she has Read More

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Daughters

Dads and Daughters

Your role in your daughters life is made very significant because you are the first male that she will relate to and she will constantly be seeking your approval. Whenever possible you should encourage her in two main areas: skills and appearance. Take the time to go and watch her perform in school plays and sporting events and congratulate her on the skills she 86532219shows. At parent teacher evenings, go along and praise her in front of her teachers – don’t make it up or be over the top, be sincere and real. Tell her she is beautiful too – particularly during adolescence she will question her looks and appearance and, as an influential male, you have the privilege of shaping her view of herself. It is important, too, that it is you that tells her these things – affirmation from Mom is Read More

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6 Top Camping Safety Tips

No doubt about it, camping can be fun. But, if you don’t pay attention to safety, your fun camping outing can turn into the camping trip from Hell. What are some of the most important camping safety tips you should know?

1. Plan Ahead. Do your research. Make sure the campground you’ve chosen is a safe one. Make sure there are no current fire dangers. Check out the weather. Any health alerts in the area, such as dangerous bacteria count in the water, or outbreak of any rodent-carrying viruses?

2. Pack the Emergency Kit. Be prepared for cuts, bee stings and allergic reactions. Bring antihistamines, antiseptic, bug sprays and insect repellents, pain relievers, bandages, sunscreen and if possible, a snake-bite kit.

113474376An emergency kit should also include the following items: Whistle, Read More

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